Dove with Branch
June 19, 2006 Insights From the Dean of Peace
Notes from the Dean's Desk
Hello! - Dean Van Leuven

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Ask the Dean?
  Global Struggle

Dear Dean, I am dating a man who has very different taste in entertainment than I do. I want to eat out and go to the movies. He wants to eat at home and watch TV. He likes to go camping and hiking for vacation. I want to spend mine at resort hotels. I miss the movies and hotels but I still like him. Do you think I should consider a permanent relationship? - Worried About the Future

Dear Worried, That depends. If you think he must or will change, it would be better to terminate the relationship. If you think you can develop a plan that you will be happy with, either together or separately, or some of both, then go for it. Essential elements are that you must love and respect him, be comfortable with compromise, and be able to enjoy doing some things separately. - the Dean

Dear Dean, Our fifteen year old son has frequent discipline problems at school. My wife says to just let the school take care of it. I feel that when the school punishes him I need to stick up for him, so that he knows he has his parents respect. What do you think? – Protective Father

Dear Protective Father, Your wife is closer to the mark. Supporting your child in his bad behavior teaches him poor lessons for life. He will learn it is okay to get in trouble because someone will always help him out it. You may find him occasionally at your door for help the rest of his life. However you need to do more than let the school take care of it. You need to find out what the problem is and work with the school. He needs lessons with love; not inappropriate support as a way to show love. - the Dean

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Law, Politics & Society ... As I see them
  Globe Magnify Glass

Until after World War II our nation did not enter into war except to protect our own territory or to help another nation protect its borders. Since then we have entered into several wars because what we thought was happening within a country was not in our own personal interest. Now, if we do not like what is happening within a country we feel we should step in and make things right, according to our interest.

This idea that we know what is right and we are justified to be policemen for the world because we are the only ones powerful and pure enough to do so should be reconsidered. We too often find ourselves being the world bully.

It is true those disputes need to be resolved and someone needs to do it. I believe that this can only be possible when done through the United Nations. We must all work together. One country can’t do it; even if it is with the best of intentions. Some say we need to do it because the United Nations can’t. I believe the solution is to change the United Nations so it can. It may not be easy but it is the only workable solution.

Creating a Peaceful New World
  World Peace

We can change the world by changing our thoughts about it. When we change the thoughts that filter the input to our memories, we have the capacity to look at life – and everything that happens to us – differently. This process is called changing our belief system. When we change our beliefs we even change the system of cause and effect. Once we change our view of the world things will not work the same as they did before. Different events will inspire responses, which will in return bring about different results.

We feel the way we think. And we think the way we do because of our belief system. If we want to change the way we feel, then we must change our beliefs. You’ll be the recipient of a wonderful new way of life, if you can just alter your beliefs to encompass wonderful expectations of life. In other words what you believe will happen, is what will happen. Almost always we find the world out there to be the world we expect it to be. So for the world to seem good to you, it is essential that you expect that it will be good.

Tips for Peaceful and Joyful Living
  Left Arrow

Monday: Today I think about things in my own life that upset me.

Tuesday: I think about ways to look at things in my life that upset me, in a positive way.

Wednesday: I create a new belief system that makes my life wonderful.

Thursday: Today I think about things in the world that upset me.

Friday: I think about ways to look at things in the world that upset me, in a positive way.

Saturday: I create a new belief system that makes the world a wonderful place.

Sunday: I enjoy the new wonderful world and life that I have created for myself.

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